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Merhaba Sevgili Okur!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sizlere bir sorum var: Sizce g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak ne demek? Hangimiz duymad\u0131k ki \u00e7evremizden ya da kendi i\u00e7 sesimizden y\u00fckselen o \u0131srarl\u0131 hayk\u0131r\u0131\u015f\u0131: “Her zaman g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak zorundas\u0131n!” Peki \u00f6n\u00fcm\u00fcze \u00e7\u0131kan devasa bir duvar\u0131 ilk vuru\u015fta y\u0131kamamak; bir engelin \u00f6n\u00fcnde bir anl\u0131\u011f\u0131na duraklamak bizi zay\u0131f m\u0131 yapar? Oysa bazen bir f\u0131rt\u0131nan\u0131n ortas\u0131nda dimdik durmak de\u011fil, r\u00fczg\u00e2r\u0131n \u015fiddetini kabul edip geri ad\u0131m atabilmektir as\u0131l g\u00fc\u00e7. 3 harfe s\u0131\u011fd\u0131r\u0131lan bu kavram\u0131n derin s\u0131rr\u0131na aralanan bu kap\u0131da, keyifli okumalar dileriz…<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Oku: \u0130nsanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 Yitirirken \/ Osamu Dazai<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Osamu Dazai ruhunun en karanl\u0131k ve gizli k\u0131vr\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ekinmeden g\u00f6zler \u00f6n\u00fcne seriyor. Dazai’nin toplumla, di\u011fer insanlarla ve en \u00e7ok da kendisiyle kuramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 o uyumu, ya\u015fama tutunma m\u00fccadelesini t\u00fcm \u00e7\u0131plakl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla aktard\u0131\u011f\u0131 otobiyografik bir eser. \u0130nsan\u0131n kalabal\u0131klar\u0131n i\u00e7inde kendine nas\u0131l yabanc\u0131la\u015fabilece\u011fini anlatan, sessiz ama derinden sarsan bir hik\u00e2yedir. Roman\u0131n ba\u015fkahraman\u0131 Yozo Oba, insanlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda var olabilmek i\u00e7in y\u00fcz\u00fcne bir maske takar; g\u00fcler, \u015fakalar yapar, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. Fakat o maskenin ard\u0131nda, giderek a\u011f\u0131rla\u015fan bir yaln\u0131zl\u0131k ve k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131k sakl\u0131d\u0131r. Dazai, kendi hayat\u0131ndan izler ta\u015f\u0131yan bu eserde insan\u0131n toplumun beklentileriyle kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131 aras\u0131nda s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kal\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ustal\u0131kla i\u015fler. Belki de kitab\u0131n en \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 yan\u0131 \u015fudur: \u0130nsan bazen d\u00fc\u015fmemek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc kimse g\u00f6rmesin diye ayakta durmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u0130nsanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 Yitirirken, “Her zaman g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak zorundas\u0131n.” diyen o i\u00e7 sese kar\u015f\u0131 sessiz bir soru b\u0131rak\u0131r: Ya bazen yorulmaya, k\u0131r\u0131lmaya ve geri ad\u0131m atmaya hakk\u0131m\u0131z varsa? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc belki de ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, f\u0131rt\u0131naya dimdik meydan okumakta de\u011fil; r\u00fczg\u00e2r\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde bir an e\u011filebildi\u011fini kabul etmektedir. Keyifli okumalar!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dinle: Human \/ Christina Perri<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n M\u00fckemmel olmak zorunda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hat\u0131rlama cesaretidir insan olmak, kusursuz g\u00f6r\u00fcnme gayretini bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131p kendi k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131na kucak a\u00e7abilmektir. Kendinize k\u0131r\u0131lma, kanama ve sadece “insan” olma hakk\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z o anlarda size rehberlik edecek bir melodiyle kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zday\u0131m. Kendinizi oldu\u011funuz gibi kucaklama yolculu\u011funuzda ruhunuza dokunacak \u015fark\u0131. \u015eark\u0131n\u0131n da f\u0131s\u0131ldad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, her \u015feyi ta\u015f\u0131mak zorunda de\u011filsiniz. Bazen yaln\u0131zca insan oldu\u011funuzu hat\u0131rlaman\u0131z yeterli. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan olmak; kusursuz olmak de\u011fil, d\u00fc\u015febilmek, yorulabilmek, hata yapabilmek ve yine de kendine \u015fefkatle sar\u0131labilmektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n “But I’m only human<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n And I bleed when I fall down”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130zle: Good Will Hunting \/ Gus Van Sant<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Zihninin devasa labirentlerinde bir d\u00e2hiyi bar\u0131nd\u0131ran Will Hunting, d\u00fcnyaya kar\u015f\u0131 \u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc y\u00fcksek surlar\u0131n ve sert kabu\u011funun ard\u0131na saklanarak hayata meydan okuyor. Yaln\u0131zca \u00fcst\u00fcn zekas\u0131yla de\u011fil, kalbine \u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc a\u015f\u0131lmaz duvarlarla da ayakta kalmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan Will i\u00e7in g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak; incinmemek, k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 gizlemek ve kimseyi kalbine yakla\u015ft\u0131rmamak demek. Ta ki terapi seanslar\u0131nda Sean kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kana kadar… Sean ile aralar\u0131nda kurulan ba\u011f, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olman\u0131n devasa zihinsel surlar \u00f6rmek de\u011fil, kendi yaralar\u0131nla ve ge\u00e7mi\u015fin y\u00fckleriyle y\u00fczle\u015febilme cesareti oldu\u011funu f\u0131s\u0131ld\u0131yor. Sean’\u0131n o unutulmaz “Bu senin su\u00e7un de\u011fil” nidas\u0131, Will’in ruhundaki en kal\u0131n z\u0131rhlar\u0131 birer birer \u00e7atlat\u0131rken; insan\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fcn kendi k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabullenmekte yatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zler \u00f6n\u00fcne seriyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bazen en b\u00fcy\u00fck cesaret, duvarlar\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fckseltmek de\u011fil, onlar\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131p bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7eri girmesine izin vermektir. Peki Sean’\u0131n nidas\u0131 size ne hissettiriyor, bunun cevab\u0131 i\u00e7in iyi seyirler diliyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn: Riesengebirge \/ Caspar David Friedrich<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kan devasa da\u011flar, yaln\u0131zca do\u011fan\u0131n ha\u015fmetini de\u011fil; ruhun, ya\u015fam\u0131n k\u0131r\u0131lmalar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 o sessiz duru\u015fu f\u0131s\u0131ldar. Zirveleri ku\u015fatan sis, hayat\u0131n belirsizliklerini simgelerken; f\u0131rt\u0131nan\u0131n ortas\u0131nda dimdik durmak yerine r\u00fczg\u00e2r\u0131n \u015fiddetini kabul edip e\u011filen, fakat k\u00f6kleriyle topra\u011fa s\u0131k\u0131 s\u0131k\u0131ya tutunan o do\u011fa dokusu, hakiki g\u00fcc\u00fcn tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 yeniden yapar. Bazen en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7, \u00f6n\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131kan devasa duvarlar\u0131 ilk vuru\u015fta y\u0131kmak ya da f\u0131rt\u0131nayla \u00e7arp\u0131\u015fmak de\u011fil; bir anl\u0131\u011f\u0131na duraklay\u0131p r\u00fczg\u00e2r\u0131n ge\u00e7mesine izin vermektir. Friedrich bu tablosunda \u015funu f\u0131s\u0131ldar: Her f\u0131rt\u0131nay\u0131 durdurmak zorunda de\u011filsin. Bazen yaln\u0131zca onun ge\u00e7mesini beklemek de g\u00fc\u00e7t\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hisset: Mendilimde Kan Sesleri \/ Edip Cansever<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Edip Cansever bu \u015fiirinde d\u00f6nemin siyasi bask\u0131lar\u0131, ekonomik zorluklar\u0131 ve toplumsal \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015f\u00fc kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda derin bir \u00e7aresizlik hisseden bir insan\u0131n i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 yans\u0131t\u0131r. Peki g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak deyince kula\u011f\u0131ma neden bu \u015fiir f\u0131s\u0131ldand\u0131? \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u015fairin mendiline bula\u015fan kan sesleri, silinmeyen ac\u0131lar\u0131, toplumsal travmalar\u0131, \u015fiddeti ve d\u00f6k\u00fclen kanlar\u0131n yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 zihinsel yank\u0131lar\u0131 f\u0131s\u0131ldar. \u015eiir, g\u00fcc\u00fcn ne oldu\u011funu geleneksel anlam\u0131yla de\u011fil, psikolojik diren\u00e7 \u00fczerinden yeniden tan\u0131mlar. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak, toplumsal trajedilere veya ki\u015fisel ac\u0131lara g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kapatmak de\u011fildir. O f\u0131rt\u0131nay\u0131 kabul edip maske takmadan ac\u0131larla, ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klarla bir umut yolu bulmakt\u0131r. \u015eiirdeki anlat\u0131c\u0131, mendilindeki “kan seslerini” yok saymaz, ac\u0131y\u0131 bast\u0131rmaz. Ya\u015fanan \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015f\u00fc ve h\u00fczn\u00fc derinden hissedip bunu dile getirebilmek, as\u0131l g\u00fcc\u00fcn bir g\u00f6stergesidir. \u0130nsanlar genelde g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmay\u0131 “duygusuzla\u015fmak” veya “ta\u015fla\u015fmak” san\u0131r. Bir insan\u0131n a\u011flamas\u0131 bile onu g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz diye damgalamam\u0131z i\u00e7in yeterli bir simgeyken Edip Cansever’in \u015fiirindeki duru\u015f, \u015fiddete ve \u00e7evresindeki yozla\u015fmaya kar\u015f\u0131 kalbini kat\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmayan bir insan\u0131n m\u00fccadelesidir. Yani as\u0131l anlat\u0131lmak istenen incinmeyi g\u00f6ze alarak insan kalabilmek en b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00fc\u00e7. \u0130lk ba\u015fta da s\u00f6yledi\u011fim gibi bazen o esintiye b\u0131rakmal\u0131y\u0131z kendimizi, b\u0131rakmal\u0131y\u0131z ki yaralar\u0131m\u0131zla insan olabilme g\u00fcc\u00fcne cesaretimiz olsun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/strong>\u201cAhmet Abi, g\u00fczelim, bir mendil niye kanar<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/em><\/strong>Di\u015f de\u011fil, t\u0131rnak de\u011fil, bir mendil niyekanar<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/em><\/strong>Mendilimde kan sesleri<\/em>.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Yazar: Ya\u011fmur Y\u0131lmaz<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Merhaba Sevgili Okur!
\nSizlere bir sorum var: Sizce g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak ne demek? Hangimiz …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6571,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n