(Bu yaz\u0131n\u0131n okunma s\u00fcresi yakla\u015f\u0131k olarak 4 dakika s\u00fcrmektedir.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir kad\u0131n do\u011far ve ilk \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 atar. G\u00f6zlerinin g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ilk koruyucu, kulaklar\u0131n\u0131n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
duydu\u011fu ilk tok ses ve tenini hissetti\u011fi ilk erkek babad\u0131r. Her kad\u0131n\u0131n bir masal\u0131 vard\u0131r ve bu<\/p>\n\n\n\n
masalda baban\u0131n beyaz atl\u0131 bir prens mi yoksa ac\u0131mas\u0131z bir avc\u0131 m\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131 tamamen baban\u0131n<\/p>\n\n\n\n
elindedir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc her kad\u0131n\u0131n iyi veya k\u00f6t\u00fc her masal\u0131nda kahraman babad\u0131r. Evrenin en<\/p>\n\n\n\n
komplike dinami\u011fi: kad\u0131n ve erkek\u2026 Bu kez bamba\u015fka bir perspektiften s\u0131nar insan\u0131. Baba<\/p>\n\n\n\n
yani erkek, heybetiyle \u00e7\u0131nara, \u00f6fkesiyle volkana ve de sevgisiyle huzura benzetilen ve bir<\/p>\n\n\n\n
kad\u0131ndan do\u011fma baba i\u00e7in ne b\u00fcy\u00fck nimettir bir k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funa sahip olmak. Ne y\u00fccedir bir<\/p>\n\n\n\n
kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ekirde\u011finden topra\u011f\u0131na \u015fahit olmak. Ne zordur da bir k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funun masal\u0131nda<\/p>\n\n\n\n
kahraman olmak. Bir baban\u0131n k\u0131z\u0131 olarak kad\u0131n ise k\u0131ym\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u00e7\u0131ray\u0131 bilemek ya da kendi<\/p>\n\n\n\n
k\u00fcllerinden yakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ate\u015fle \u0131s\u0131nmak\u2026 Bir kad\u0131n i\u00e7in ne zordur her sevdan\u0131n cevab\u0131n\u0131 babada<\/p>\n\n\n\n
bulmak, ne y\u00fccedir ilk a\u015fk\u0131nla ye\u015fermek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her baba duygusal olarak biraz uzakt\u0131r. Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131ndand\u0131r ki s\u00f6zleriyle de\u011fil g\u00f6zleriyle<\/p>\n\n\n\n
hissettirir \u015fefkatini ve bu kendinden bile sak\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131ndand\u0131r. Bir kad\u0131n taraf\u0131ndan yeti\u015ftirilen<\/p>\n\n\n\n
baba, bir kad\u0131n\u0131 yeti\u015ftirirken kendi \u00f6z\u00fcyle y\u00fczle\u015fir. Kim oldu\u011fu, kim olaca\u011f\u0131 ve kim olmas\u0131<\/p>\n\n\n\n
gerekti\u011fini yine bir kad\u0131n taraf\u0131ndan \u00f6\u011frenir. \u00d6fkesini dindirir, k\u00f6\u015felerini yontar ve ruhunu<\/p>\n\n\n\n
merhametle besler. Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ona ko\u015fulsuz bir sevgiyle ba\u011fl\u0131 ve onun k\u00f6klerini ta\u015f\u0131yan bir<\/p>\n\n\n\n
k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fu vard\u0131r; k\u00f6\u015felerinden batmas\u0131n diye vazge\u00e7er, \u00f6fkelerini s\u0131\u00e7ramas\u0131n diye dindirir ve<\/p>\n\n\n\n
ruhunu k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n masumiyetiyle beslerler. Bu ba\u011f pamuk ipli\u011fi gibidir \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc k\u0131z \u00e7ocuklar\u0131<\/p>\n\n\n\n
g\u00f6n\u00fcllerinde sars\u0131lmaz bir tahta oturturlar babalar\u0131n\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
K\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funun ilk \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 da son \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 da baban\u0131n kollar\u0131nda son bulur ki bu son<\/p>\n\n\n\n
fiziki bir temastan \u00e7ok \u00f6tesidir. K\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fu babas\u0131na olan ba\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ilmek ilmek merhametle<\/p>\n\n\n\n
i\u015fler, g\u00fcvenle besler, sevgiyle ye\u015fertir. B\u00fcy\u00fck bir hayranl\u0131kla bakar, g\u00f6zlerinin bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerde<\/p>\n\n\n\n
olmasa da g\u00f6zlerini \u00e7evirir ona. Karanl\u0131k bir gecenin sabah\u0131nda g\u00fcne\u015fi getirecek olan, \u00e7\u0131kmaz<\/p>\n\n\n\n
bir sokakta kayboldu\u011funda yol g\u00f6sterecek olan babad\u0131r. Baban\u0131n ac\u0131mas\u0131z bir avc\u0131 veya beyaz<\/p>\n\n\n\n
atl\u0131 bir prens olmas\u0131ndan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zd\u0131r bu ba\u011f. Masumdur ve hep masum kalacakt\u0131r. Bundand\u0131r<\/p>\n\n\n\n
ki k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011funun hayat\u0131 boyunca ko\u015fulsuz sevece\u011fi ve u\u011fruna masallar\u0131n\u0131 feda edece\u011fi tek<\/p>\n\n\n\n
erkek babad\u0131r. K\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fu ise baban\u0131n ihlal edilemez t\u00fcm s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na ve sars\u0131lmaz t\u00fcm<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n kurallar\u0131na bir darbedir ve bu darbe bir baban\u0131n hayat\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131na gelebilecek en g\u00fczel \u015feydir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Benim masal\u0131mda ise baba beyaz atl\u0131 olmasa da daima bir prenstir. Babam bana her<\/p>\n\n\n\n ikisini de \u00f6\u011fretti\u011findendir ki kendi k\u00fcllerimden yakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m ate\u015fle \u0131s\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131m g\u00fcnler de olmu\u015ftur,k\u0131ym\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u00e7\u0131ray\u0131 bilemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m g\u00fcnler de. Dindirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6fkesi bazen<\/p>\n\n\n\n s\u0131\u00e7ram\u0131\u015ft\u0131r bana ve dik durmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmi\u015ftir. Yonttu\u011fu k\u00f6\u015feleri ilham\u0131m olmu\u015ftur ve<\/p>\n\n\n\n s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131 \u00e7izmi\u015fimdir. Sevgimle besledi\u011fi ruhu ise beni hep iyili\u011fe, umuda inand\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131mdand\u0131r ki sana sesleniyorum baba: \u201cKendinde eksik g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn ne varsa seni oradan<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00f6p\u00fcp kokluyorum, kusurun sand\u0131\u011f\u0131n her \u015feye kollar\u0131m\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131yor ve sar\u0131l\u0131yorum. \u00d6mr\u00fcm vefa<\/p>\n\n\n\n ettik\u00e7e sana sevgim ko\u015fulsuz ve masallar\u0131m fedad\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Eslem Uyar<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u201cK\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fu ise baban\u0131n ihlal edilemez t\u00fcm s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131na ve sars\u0131lmaz t\u00fcm kurallar\u0131na bir darbedir ve bu darbe bir baban\u0131n hayat\u0131nda ba\u015f\u0131na gelebilecek en g\u00fczel \u015feydir.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6315,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,4,1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n